My Dad and stepmother are entirely financing the wedding and my mom and stepdad aren’t contributing at all. Is there a way to include my mom/stepdad on the invitation while not giving the implication that they funded it? Or is it across-the-board accepted that the non-paying parent just doesn’t get mentioned?
Thanks!
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It’s going to be too many people, just put:
Bride x and
Groom X
together with their parents
request the pleasure of your company at their wedding
Mr. and Mrs. Darnell McPhereson (your dad)
Request the honor of your presence
to the marriage of
Dewanna Jones McPhereson
daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Jones (your mom)
To
Christopher Kwame Johnson
son of Mr. and Mrs. Johnson
Saturday, the fourth of June
At seven o’clock in the evening
Marquis Hotel
Terra Haute, Indiana
up to you but then your dad and step mom are inviting but you aren’t leaving out your mom and step dad
It is very hard to mention one set of parents without the other, unless you want to cause some major family drama. I don’t think that when people read their invitations they think about who has helped pay for the wedding. I always suggest both or neither. I’m sure that even though your mom & stepdad aren’t helping finance the wedding the are honoured to be your parents and are probably helping in other non monetary ways? Im sure that if you explain to your dad that you don’t want to cause problems for your wedding by hurting your moms feelings, he would understand. Maybe you could put a special spot in your speeches to say ” Thank you Dad and ******* for making thing day possible for us”.
To be simple, you put your parents and not their spouses.
We request the honor of your presence at the wedding of
Bride
daughter of Mr John Smith and Mrs Sarah Jones
to
Groom
son of Mr and Mrs McMillian.
or you could do
Mr and Mrs Smith request your presence at the wedding of
Bride
daughter of Mr Smith and Mrs Jones
and
Groom
son of Mr and Mrs McMillian
location
date
time
Don’t include dad, stepmom, mom and stepdad. That’s way too many names. If you’d like, you could just go with “together with their parents”. That’s what people do when between divorces and stepparents you’ll have 15 names on the invite. I think it depends on how you feel about Mom and step dad. If you are concerned they’d be offended, stick with daughter of Dad and Mom. If they wouldn’t get that offended and aren’t contributing emotionally either, the proper way is to say Mr and Mrs Host are inviting you to event.
You are the daughter of Mom and Dad though. You aren’t the daughter of stepparents. Unless you are stating “Dad and Stepmom are hosting event”, don’t include all the names.
It is across the board accepted that your name is not a host if you are not hosting it at all…the only exception to this is if your mom would accept it. I know my mom is still furious that the DJ introduced the grooms parents before the brides parents and it’s been nearly 4 years! Since you don’t want to start a rift with her, before you order them, discuss the layout. “Hey Mom what do you think of this wording/format for the invites?” If she’s emotionally not helping, don’t worry about it and do it however you like the look best.
Since we no longer live in the early 1900s, invitations are not intended to showcase who is financing the event. Frankly, that’s no one else’s business.
Your family is your family. They all deserve to be on the invitation, regardless of what they are contributing. I would word the invitation as so:
Jane Marie Smith-Clark and
John Michael Jones
together with their parents
Anne and Roger Smith
Robert and Alice Clark
Joseph and Mary Jones
invite you to celebrate their marriage…
That way all the parents are included (no hurt feelings).